Hello all! I have been reading a lot of other blogs lately. I cam across a post about a woman who has two daughters and has been told by the doctors she cant have any more or she would lose her life, of course there was a complicated pregnancy that led to this declaration. So now the woman badly want more children specifically a boy, her husband doesn’t know about the diagnosis and she is looking for how to broach the subject of gestational surrogacy with him, she declared that she felt like dying because she couldnt have more children. They are Nigerians.
I want to remove the God aspect from this situation to be able to examine it properly.
I read this and i was thinking to myself she is a shitty and ungrateful human being. Why? She has two children already, what more does she want? Are girls not children? And shouldnt she simply be grateful to have been able to have children to begin with?
Next, how the hell is she married, had issues with a pregnancy and her husband doesnt know? Are Nigerians so clouded in their judgement that they hide such things from their partners? And if her husband knew then truth would he even want more children? Does her husband even want more children irrespective?
Many humans beings are average at best when you look at the world from a perspective of accomplishments. So if a man doesnt get his “name” to continue is it actually that big of a deal? With the cost of properly educating (financial, emotional,moral) children today, should anyone really be clamouring to have more than 2 to 3 children?
Is this woman just being selfish? I noticed a lot of my friends in the west arent too concerned about procreation, more are worried about their careers and impact on the environment they live in. In Nigeria, if you sneeze they ask if you are pregnant 2 weeks after the wedding. Someone sent me a message on bb asking me when my shower is, and i said what shower? She responded baby shower! I didnt respond beyond that. God forbid a woman for whatever reason cant have kids or doesnt want kids, pressure from the “ovary watchers” will give the person a breakdown.
Kindly share your thoughts.
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