Are you paranoid or just Nigerian? Why do Nigerians hide and then try to invite you to their event? Apparently, you can’t even ask an obviously pregnant woman how she is doing, and if pregnancy has been kind to her. Nigerians, why do we hide? But we are Christians and Muslims, doesn’t our God protect us against evil? I found the picture below on Instagram.
I like when people get married, you don’t hear about it, but they want to plan their 1st child’s naming, they decide to call you. What are you calling me for? So i saw on Facebook an old school mate got married, and pretty much none of us were invited or notified. I mean not that i take offense, but a few of my other old school mates felt slighted. Personally i was like i don’t have N20,000 to give anyone for aso ebi right now, sooo its all good.
I have been know to touch pregnant women’s bellies – In America only. In Nigeria, i don’t even bother asking people if they are pregnant. If you don’t tell me, i just assume you are fat, and i will make sure to tell you that when you announce the birth of your child. The American in me is sitting thinking, these Nigerians are really crazy, and the Nigerian in me is thinking American’s haven’t heard of evil spirits and witches and wizards from the village.
I am trying to wrap my head around it, note i am not saying display your entire life on social media, but if you are going to share the news after the fact, why where you hiding it to begin with? Or do you not have faith that God will give to you what he has apportioned for you?
It reminds me of the constant announcement of miracles of 50 to 60 year old women who after having battles of a life time with fertility issues come and tell us how they got a miracle. Those babies didn’t just appear, also tie in the high consistency of multiple births. Many people are unwilling to tell the truth that their Miracles were performed by God through fertility clinics and donor eggs or sperm or even both. How many twins did you know when growing up? How many younger ones do you know? You weren’t just fasting and praying for 20 years, you were seeking Doctor’s counsel at the same time, do not mislead those seeking hope. Nobody made themselves, and only God knows why he gives folks the struggles which he gives them and also the victory.
I remember announcing my wedding months before on Facebook, i didn’t want to hear – the you didn’t tell me stories. I would rather hear, sorry i couldn’t make it. Many people don’t have a clue what my husband looks like. It was people who came to the wedding and posted pictures that shared my wedding pictures for me on Facebook. So i ain’t saying a different pose of you and your fiance everyday, or your pregnant belly.
Do you expect to keep secrets and then announce it and expect people to celebrate with you after? Please share your thoughts. With pregnancy once you pass the three month period, i feel its OK to disclose it. Some people get married and then get divorced all in secret and you just wonder, why they are telling you the story five years later, but not to be mean – you sit and listen to them.
Nigerians shout about religion so much, but “traditional” beliefs seem to be our anchor as a society- be they good or bad.
My 2 cents for the day.
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