So i am watching this show called “World’s worst mum”. Its unbelievable how people are capable of handicapping their children. This couple has children aged 5 to 20, and it is unbelievable how badly they have raised their kids due to their own fears. I atribute this to their own insecurity and need for control. Is the need to protect our children leading to bad parenting? Parenting is the most important task in our lives and one that comes without a manual.
To put the situation mildly, the kids were only allowed to play for an hour outside, the 20 year old was not allowed to take the bus, she also was not really allowed to baby sit the younger kids alone. This girl was in university by the way, and she did not know how to take public transport or drive. The 12 year old son refused to go to the basement by himself and had never been left alone and was scared to be left alone. Watching the whole thing was very disturbing for me because i kept wondering how they will ever be contributing or productive members of society. Who would be willing to have any of those as a friend, coworker or even spouse?
Sheltering kids often creates a handicap, because the learning process has been interrupted. Kids learn through play and experimentation, and if you don’t let them check things out, they will never learn or be able to build their imagination.
My parents were very liberal in raising us, I grew up fairly average and I remember going to the market with our housekeeper, walking the 10 minutes to school by the time i was 8, and flirting with public transport on ocassion ( i did more taxis as i wasn’t great at “alighting ” from buses). We had a childrens driver but my parents like i said allowed us certain freedoms.
I know i can’t afford to coddle my kids, because there is no way i want any adult children that cant take care of themselves. It’s like the married people who live with their parents for years, uhm they have raised you, go and raise your own family and let the old people retire.
One parent i admire is Nduoma she does a lot of stuff with her son, and is amazing. I don’t know her but was referred to her site by a friend.
If you are a parent, please how do you find the balance between raising independent children and loving them at the same time? We parents in waiting could use some help – i didnt announce a pregnancy. ..before awon decoders start decoding.
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