In life, we often celebrate after we have achieved a milestone of some sort. We have a baby – we celebrate safe delivery, graduation etc. You get my point. So what is the one thing we celebrate before we accomplish anything in it? Drumroll – marriage.
We celebrate marriage before we spend a day in it. We have elaborate celebrations – especially in this culture (Nigeria), families are willing to expend significant resources to celebrate this non-achievement. Why? What exactly is the celebration about? Is it about the unknowing misery some people are signing up for? Someone stated during a conversation that only 1 in 10 marriages in Nigeria in the 40 and under generation is actually healthy and thriving- I would have placed the number more at 5 in 10. But what do I know?
I am not quite sure what i am asking or how to even phrase the questions. What is wrong with marriage and what is right with it? Is it an issue of expectations and managing them or is it a case of a more enlightened generation? Or is it a case of priorities? Or too much Disney and romantic flicks?
That giveaway is still HERE