“Shakara made me lose my man….
I have been praying silently for God to bring this guy my way, each time I see him, my heart skips twice. Finally one day when I least expected it, I stumbled into him in the bank, he quickly apologized for not looking…. We continued our transaction, after that as I walked out to the junction to get a cab, he offered me a ride which I obliged… We got talking and he asked for my number. I refused to give him, just wanted to play a little hard to get, I was surprised he didn’t insist, so he dropped me off. I almost cried when he drove off. Months passed and I never saw him again.
Then few months later, I met him in a car wash where I used to hang out with my gals, he came to where we were seated and asked for my number again. Cause I didn’t want my friends to think I was tripping for him, I refused him again, and he gave me a hug and left. I never forgave myself, when all my friends wished he was their man. The last time I met him was in the gym, where he asked for my number again, but this time I did not give because a lot of people were around I didn’t want to feel cheap, so I refused again. That was the last time I saw him that year. I kept hoping and praying to see him again, and this time I vowed to even give him a kiss.
One year passed until I met him in a fast food joint, I was so happy as he saw me and he walked up to me (in my heart I was prepared to give him the kiss and the number, but unfortunately), he just said hi and passed me by. I noticed a gal standing next to him and holding his waist, I had to use a taxi to follow them to his house. Now I can’t sleep or eat, I blame myself for allowing another woman take my man. Please I need advise, do I walk up to him now and tell him how I feel?”
The Story above is from the Instagram Handle break_or_makeup.
After I read it, I just kept thinking – who is raising these silly girls? Everybody is running to cyberspace for advice that should be common sense. And these silly girls wonder why the so-called “hoes” are marrying quality husbands and they are running around in circles. Since when did giving a man your phone number on first meeting make you cheap? Since when did agreeing to proper dates – (not Netflix and chill, not visiting his house to watch tv and drink minerals) I mean going out to a mutual point at a respectable time of the day and getting to know someone make a young lady cheap?
If you don’t date properly how would you know to weed out the chaff from the wheat? Even premarital sex can be done respectfully if you choose to tow that line, so it becomes a question of where are these young women learning these misconceptions about what being cheap or respectful are about? The people who make themselves accessible notice I didn’t say readily available stay winning – that’s why Damola who has had 50 boyfriends or dates is quicker to find a husband when all of you are in the dating pool, she understands the dynamics of being accessible…the person you want to chat you up cannot reach you, is he an evil spirit or should he leave his life and turn into a monitoring spirit to monitor you – when you have already indicated you are not accessible? If you want a boyfriend or a husband – stop acting like an ogbanje without earthly ties.
Please help and judge the matter oh!