Shakara

“Shakara made me lose my man….

I have been praying silently for God to bring this guy my way, each time I see him, my heart skips twice. Finally one day when I least expected it, I stumbled into him in the bank, he quickly apologized for not looking…. We continued our transaction, after that as I walked out to the junction to get a cab, he offered me a ride which I obliged… We got talking and he asked for my number. I refused to give him, just wanted to play a little hard to get, I was surprised he didn’t insist, so he dropped me off. I almost cried when he drove off. Months passed and I never saw him again.

Then few months later, I met him in a car wash where I used to hang out with my gals, he came to where we were seated and asked for my number again. Cause I didn’t want my friends to think I was tripping for him, I refused him again, and he gave me a hug and left. I never forgave myself, when all my friends wished he was their man. The last time I met him was in the gym, where he asked for my number again, but this time I did not give because a lot of people were around I didn’t want to feel cheap, so I refused again. That was the last time I saw him that year. I kept hoping and praying to see him again, and this time I vowed to even give him a kiss.

One year passed until I met him in a fast food joint, I was so happy as he saw me and he walked up to me (in my heart I was prepared to give him the kiss and the number, but unfortunately), he just said hi and passed me by. I noticed a gal standing next to him and holding his waist, I had to use a taxi to follow them to his house. Now I can’t sleep or eat, I blame myself for allowing another woman take my man. Please I need advise, do I walk up to him now and tell him how I feel?”

The Story above is from the Instagram Handle break_or_makeup.

After I read it, I just kept thinking – who is raising these silly girls? Everybody is running to cyberspace for advice that should be common sense. And these silly girls wonder why the so-called “hoes” are marrying quality husbands and they are running around in circles. Since when did giving a man your phone number on first meeting make you cheap? Since when did agreeing to proper dates – (not Netflix and chill, not visiting his house to watch tv and drink minerals) I mean going out to a mutual point at a respectable time of the day and getting to know someone make a young lady cheap?

If you don’t date properly how would you know to weed out the chaff from the wheat? Even premarital sex can be done respectfully if you choose to tow that line, so it becomes a question of where are these young women learning these misconceptions about what being cheap or respectful are about? The people who make themselves accessible notice I didn’t say readily available stay winning – that’s why Damola who has had 50 boyfriends or dates is quicker to find a husband when all of you are in the dating pool, she understands the dynamics of being accessible…the person you want to chat you up cannot reach you, is he an evil spirit or should he leave his life and turn into a monitoring spirit to monitor you – when you have already indicated you are not accessible? If you want a boyfriend or a husband – stop acting like an ogbanje without earthly ties.

Please help and judge the matter oh!

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31 Comments on Shakara

  1. Meeehn! For crying out loud, this babe missed out on 2 other chances (let me assume that the 1st time was just her doing ‘initial gra- gra’). If she was so concerned about what people will say, whatever happened to writing out her number in a piece of paper and giving it to him quietly?? Na wa ooo!

    I rest my case…..#LASTMABabe

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    • Nkechi Lol @ LASTMA babe…I think many times women are misleading other women as to what is acceptable and what isn’t. she wants a man but she is too busy forming.

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  2. Lol @ ogbanje without earthly ties…I find the story unbelievable. Can a gal be that stupid and naive?

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    • Nne, I no longer discount the authenticity of these stories anymore. …there is so much confusion going on that people don’t even understand their roles anymore.

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  3. I said “ah!” at the second time and laughed at the final meeting. Serves her right.

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  4. i feel like slapping the girl right now she is very stupid. kai i don’t know why i am taking it personal sef.

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  5. Take her man? How is he her man? He was never hers so no one can take him from her. O ti po daran. This is a deluded gal who cares too much about what others think.

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  6. Hahahahaah Yeah preach it!

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    • UrAnon, not preaching oh, but how do people expect to settle down and be rejecting men- not because he is not up to her standard or desires but because she doesn’t want to look cheap?

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  7. Her man???? Please she should gerrarahere
    Why are people soo stupid please i just had to use that word…who made all this rules please

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  8. As always, on point as ever Pynk.

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  9. I love the blue gown on you very beautiful. As for the topic no comment sooo silly

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  10. Don’t believe the story joh. Doubt someone can be this silly.

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    • Bee – this story is mild – follow the instagram handle, read SDK chronicles. There are people that are thanking God he delivered their husbands from sleeping with househelps, their cousins etc. this story is believable.

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  11. She’s waiting for him to ride along on a horse and come take her to his palace… She go tey for road. You want something so bad then you go for it.

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  12. This funny girl is pathetic.

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  13. Perfect case of “asawana”.

    Mumu girl.

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  14. The dress looks very cool on u. Babebebe!!

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  15. I don’t want to believe anyone can be this stupid? Guys of these days dont have the time for all such childish games. She’s even lucky he asked a second AND EVEN a third time! Smh for her.

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  16. The young lady is probably sleeping on a fence. Her man indeed. Lol

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