Women women women, we always think we are setting standards when in actuality we are helping create voids in our lives. Unrealistic demands when we know deep down inside we just want a partner that is good to us and then we waste so much time looking for the sh*t that doesnt matter that we lose sight of the good people in front of our faces….if you want to settle down- please leave the shenanigans behind – I didn’t say to entertain everybody that comes your way but at least be realistic in your expectations. Do not be setting standards that even your own father didn’t provide you with for any man and then wonder why you are single at 37 but your friend Tinuke married a regular guy at 27 and is happily content with one summer trip a year. The images below are from instagram – a woman above the age of 30 really sat down and typed the email below and i read it thinking two things – the babe will either enter one chance and actually marry someone that will defraud her emotionally or she wont marry at all.
Standards such as God fearing, accountable and kind are realistic to have, but notice the focus of this lady….
I believe our ability to separate fantasy from reality at a certain age is what makes us adults. I keep having this discussion with a few women I know over 30 who claim they want to settle down. Someone at 35 was telling me the guy has to be above 6ft tall and all i kept thinking was really? And I had to try to explain to her that physical characteristics are often times just that – my husband is 5ft 9 inches tall maybe add another half inch – he is brighter than the morning sun (i don’t like light skinned people from an attraction stand point), but I promise you he is the most awesome thing since sliced bread.
I am grateful to God for the foresight he gave me when my husband came into my life. I often don’t talk about my marriage because it almost feels like I am showing off….he and I were discussing the same point the other day. We are soo drama free that it is ridiculous and are almost too considerate of each other in terms of how we cater to ourselves and profess love….i always tease my husband that he cannot leave me because I will just follow him where ever he is going 😅.
Share your thoughts..in terms of unrealistic expectations. If you ever had them and how you got rid of them or are working on getting rid of them.