When Does this Mess Stop

Women women women, we always think we are setting standards when in actuality we are helping create voids in our lives. Unrealistic demands when we know deep down inside we just want a partner that is good to us and then we waste so much time looking for the sh*t that doesnt matter that we lose sight of the good people in front of our faces….if you want to settle down- please leave the shenanigans behind – I didn’t say to entertain everybody that comes your way but at least be realistic in your expectations. Do not be setting standards that even your own father didn’t provide you with for any man and then wonder why you are single at 37 but your friend Tinuke married a regular guy at 27 and is happily content with one summer trip a year. The images below are from instagram – a woman above the age of 30 really sat down and typed the email below and i read it thinking two things – the babe will either enter one chance and actually marry someone that will defraud her emotionally or she wont marry at all.
Standards such as God fearing, accountable and kind are realistic to have, but notice the focus of this lady….

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I believe our ability to separate fantasy from reality at a certain age is what makes us adults. I keep having this discussion with a few women I know over 30 who claim they want to settle down. Someone at 35 was telling me the guy has to be above 6ft tall and all i kept thinking was really? And I had to try to explain to her that physical characteristics are often times just that – my husband is 5ft 9 inches tall maybe add another half inch – he is brighter than the morning sun (i don’t like light skinned people from an attraction stand point), but I promise you he is the most awesome thing since sliced bread.

I am grateful to God for the foresight he gave me when my husband came into my life. I often don’t talk about my marriage because it almost feels like I am showing off….he and I were discussing the same point the other day. We are soo drama free that it is ridiculous and are almost too considerate of each other in terms of how we cater to ourselves and profess love….i always tease my husband that he cannot leave me because I will just follow him where ever he is going 😅.

Share your thoughts..in terms of unrealistic expectations. If you ever had them and how you got rid of them or are working on getting rid of them.

NESTR
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14 Comments on When Does this Mess Stop

  1. I think it’s just a joke. This can’t be real. I never had unrealistic expectations.

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  2. Hahahahahaha so with all her 31 years on earth she has still refused to have sense abi. it’s good to have standards, but please let them be realistic. this one just wants a glamorous groom to post on instagram just like the friends she’s condemning.

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  3. Shes a joker

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  4. She’s out of touch with reality if this isn’t a joke.
    I love the sound of your marriage. At the end of the day that’s what everyone (with sense) really wants.

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  5. Sometimes I wonder if some people actually live on this same Earth, or if they just vacation here. She need to grow up. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been realistic about my expectations of a life partner. My husband gives me Peace and Joy, and I can’t trade that for any other thing. We are both okay financially and working towards being better. Mme. Pynk, I love when you talk about your marriage, it gives me joy. May God continue to bless you both.

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  6. Hello Mme. Pynk, thank you so much for the baby blanket. I feel so blessed. May God continue to bless and keep you. Amen.

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  7. Please wasn’t she joking? Or maybe sent in a prank message, just for effect?
    If the lady is serious about the requirements she typed, then she needs help.

    Thinking about it, can two young adults – a couple, who are working for their money go for 4 vacations in a year? How would they find the time?

    Awww@ you and your hubby 😀

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  8. She’s def joking

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  9. www.thelmathinks.com // December 12, 2015 at 21:18 // Reply

    I’m 90% certain that this is fiction. Right now I just want to good man who’s sucessful and potent. Hehe.

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  10. Honestly, it looks like she was joking, to just see what people say perhaps?

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  11. Lool,must be a joke 27hours a week on phone?? Discussing what biko??uncannily handsome?? vacation 4 times a year??

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  12. This has to be the joke of the century!!!
    Granted, once in a while people have unrealistic expectations, but this one is unrealistically unrealistic…lol

    While i was dating, i think my unrealistic expectation was height. I always happened to have a thing for very tall dark guys (like 6ft tall), and as i would have it, every of my ex was tall and dark. I even used to tell myself that i can never marry someone who is the same height or not taller than i am. But after all said and done, the height never really saved the relationships from its numerous troubles…lol

    Today I am married to a very wonderful man who is just about my height, and we even get to tease each other that we are both short.

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  13. She’s definitely joking. If not she’s suffering from an acute case of disillusionment.

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