So I was sitting down having a convo with someone and we were talking about parents. My issue was with my mom who finds it challenging to say yes to offers from her kids. One of my brothers wants to take her and his mother in law to Disney world and my mom didn’t want to say an outright no. So I had to have a conversation with her about letting other people be nice to her on such a grand scale.
Now my convo partner helped me to understand that our parents spend so much time and give so much of their lives to us that they don’t realise when we are trying to say thank you in return and appreciate them a little bit. For this person for everytime he pays for something for his mom she is always trying somehow to give the money back and he has to run away so she can’t get to him to give it back.
Now i have a question about parents who don’t seem to mind when their children either prostitute to pay the family’s bills or engage in other dubious activity. How does a child you sent to University show up and pay your bills or buys you a car with no or little questions asked. I think this is the first thing that drives many Nigerians into runs and Yahoo stuff while in university or after high school.
If the poverty is that bad at home, how does it become these children’s responsibility to elevate their entire families before they even become adults? Or you have cases where the parents are so poor the bride price is seen as their ticket to a better life…
I am just curious because I am trying to understand if it is poverty that makes us this way or it’s a cultural thing.