So you know this year is my first year as a mother…my little peas were cooking this time last year…so I was unofficially a mama. My lovebuds have started murmuring something that sounds like mama😚😚😚.
Despite having my tender twins at the age of 34, I have quite a few new mummy friends in my age bracket. I mean women age 30 and up that have just had their first babies in the last 2 or so years. Hell my friend is 43 she just gave birth to “our” baby last week- our baby because men if I tell her story we will all be crying.
I think there is a common unifying theme with motherhood – no one knows what they are really doing in terms of mothering but we simply give it our best and remain overpossessive of our kids. Many of mt friends have been able to take time out from their careers for a year or two to raise kids and are able to get back into the workforce because of prior years of experience.
Personally I realise if I had my children in my 20s I would have been resentful. One thing that has not left me is wanderlust. I want to travel travel travel- I don’t even care about the country, I just want to go. I was discussing with my husband about travelling in 2017 and initially we were like ok, no problem I can go. Next thing we go to search for tickets and the airline bounces back and tells me how I can only travel with one adult per infant under two. Essentially i cannot travel alone with both my kids alone till they turn two, there must be another adult. I have been begging my mom to travel – she said she will think about it. Who else can I beg😂😂
There are some days I feel like a prisoner in my own house and going stir crazy just being with my kids. And I love then dearly, but some moments I just want to be me. No kids to think about, but the narcissist in me wanted kids, so I must take care of them to the best of my abilities.
Motherhood is one of the most thankless jobs ever to exist. No matter how much we think we honour our mothers I don’t think it will ever be enough. Women go through so much when raising kids- the range of emotions and sacrifices etc. You work so hard at trying to be everything to your loved ones and sometimes you have to remember that you can’t be.
Mothers are superwomen, but we are also human. Please show some love to every woman around you and thank her. Thank her everyday for her commitment.
I am saying a big thank You to all Grandmothers, mothers and future mothers. May your well of care never run dry.
I found my mothers day gift- my husband has this thing where he hides gifts in the house and I end up finding them before the day. Sometimes I tell him just to annoy him (I can be petty too) and other times I jusy pretend to be surprised. 😂 At least he thinks I am an awesome mom, maybe crazy but awesome.
I am giving away N2,500 in airtime (any Nigerian Telco) to two people. All I need you to do is tell me what motherhood means to you either as a mother or what your mother means to you. I will pick my two favourite comments by Friday 31st March 2017.